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Family Law Special Report eBook
Further to our free news letter you can purchase our information gem - the Family Law Special Report eBook. This report is brimming with insight into the inner workings of the family court system. No legal mumbo jumbo. No tough technical terms. Every topic is explained in plain english from the perspective of a non-lawyer who has experienced the full brunt of the family court system. Its only $24.95 - far less than even an hour of a lawyer's time. Furthermore its an eBook with instant delivery to your PC. You could be reading it just minutes from now. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

The Family Law Special Report is not a collection of forms to fill out. There are many excellent family law resources for this already and divorce is often way more complicated than some legal separation agreement forms and divorce papers. Sure if you and your spouse can agree on the terms then a divorce can be very simple. But when you start to divide matrimonial property, figure support payments, and work out child access - divorce can get very complex and emotional.

By making a practice of escalating the fight between divorcing parents, the unethical family law lawyer is able to profit handsomely. The Family Law Special Report is about the roles that the various family law industry players actually fulfill in the systematic dismemberment of your family. And most importantly it is about ways that you can protect yourself and your family from being taken advantage of.

Armed with the knowledge in the Family Law Special Report you will be able to ask sharp questions and identify situations where you are exposed to being screwed. Don't get taken advantage of. Knowledge is power and with the Family Law Special Report at hand you are bound to fair better in the battle ground of family court. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

In the Best Interests of the Lawyers
One of the things that becomes apparent after reading the Family Law Special Report is the notion that the family law legal system is optimized for the benefit of family law lawyers. This is not a myth. In a disturbing number of cases family law lawyers are the main beneficiaries of domestic discourse and particularly do well in acrimonious situations where the family being plundered owns a house. The greedy lawyers profit handsomely and quite shamelessly as they siphon off your children's legacy to buy fabulous vacations, boob jobs, and hot cars. Don't be another victim. Learn about the game before you start. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

The Family Law Special Report focuses on a unique view of the way the court system is structured, the roles of the various players, and examines the centuries old beliefs that underpin its operation. The report provides a map of how a family law case progresses from the beginning, when one spouse serves the other with papers, to the post court phase.

A most telling piece of information was uncovered by the author discussing the cost of divorce with a Chartered Accountant with over 25 years of experience. The accountant's simple observations were that in acrimonious divorces 1) the sum of the legal bills for both spouses rarely exceeds the equity in the family's home and 2) that the lawyers do what they can to take that home equity as fees for themselves.

So using this formula, for example, a family with $20,000 equity in their home should expect the total of the legal bills for the husband and the wife to have an acrimonious breakup to come in around $20,000. For a family with $100,000 equity in their home the same miserable divorce would be expected to come in around $100,000. Same results but an $80,000 difference in the price tag.

For many this information is nothing new. There are good reasons that lawyers are the subjects of many of the cruel jokes that go around. However the Family Law Special Report goes further than the rest and explains many of the ways that greedy unethical family law lawyers can suck the money out of your family. It is not an obvious process from the perspective of a spouse going through divorce. Many do not see it coming and only realize they are being screwed when it is too late.

The unethical lawyers prey upon the ignorance of the public of the ways of the family court system. The law says one thing, but something quite different unfolds when court is held. It is baffling and frustrating until you take the right perspective - then it makes sense. By reading the Family Law Special Report you will be presented with the observations of lay-people (many of them professionals and business folks) who have stumbled through the divorce process ahead of you. The lessons learned are organised into short chapters (with pictures) on a number of key divorce subjects.

The difficulty with family law is that while there are pieces of legislation, rules, and regulations that have been written down, much of this is confusing, incomplete, contradictory. Hence these tangled rules have been 'interpreted' over the years. However none of the interpretation has been written down as a concise set of rules. Only those who have experienced the tough knocks of family court get to learn these hidden rules. And of course the unethical family law lawyers know all to well how the game is played. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

Mediation
In many jurisdictions mediation or marriage counseling is often an option before actually going to court. But unless both parties approach this option with the right attitude it goes nowhere. And in that case you will find yourself before a family court judge who will resolve the issues for you.

There are two major classifications of mediation: open and closed.

Open Mediation
In open mediation the mediator will make a report that the family court judge will likely see. This will happen whether the divorcing spouses come to an agreement or not. If a separation agreement or parenting plan is made then the mediator will report the terms reached. If an agreement is not made the mediator documents what has been accomplished and may add some professional commentary on the outstanding issues.

Closed Mediation
In closed mediation the mediator will only make a report if an agreement was reached. If the spouses fail to agree the mediator will only state that ?no agreement was reached' - no more information will be revealed.

Comparison of Open and Closed Mediation
There are advantages and disadvantages to both approaches. People often feel that they can speak more freely in a closed mediation session and therefore there is a higher probability of actually reaching an agreement. But if an agreement is not reached then it is all a waste of time. On the other hand in open mediation the mediator's report will indicate the reasons that an agreement cannot be reached. Such a report may well indicate that one spouse is being unreasonable which, for example, could be treated as significant input by the family court judge. Open mediation should reduce the court time since if a partial agreement is made there are less issues for the judge to have to sort out.

In the Family Law Special Report there are some tips on mediation and suggestions of how to make use of it even if it a closed mediation session and no agreement is reached. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

Fathers Rights
For fathers the Family Law Special Report should be required reading before dealing with the family law industry. Many fathers have experienced gender bias againast men in family court that seems to completely fly in the face of basic human rights. Many judges seem to operate on the presumption that mothers are better parents. By reading the Family Law Special Report you will learn ways that the author has used to neutrailze this bias.

Think that as a father you have the right to see your own children? Do you believe that shared custody or joint custody is the norm? Sorry, in most court jurisdictions that is just not so. You may only see your children if the mother agrees or you convince a judge that it would be in the 'best interest of the children'. The family law system seems to execute its role as the protector of children by giving custody and complete say in access to the mother in the majority of cases. In the Family Law Special Report it is explained how the court system's belief in the 'Tender Years Doctine' is used by unethical lawyers to extract as much money as possible from the divorcing family. If you are the father in a divorce you may have to effectively buy access to your own flesh and blood offspring. Unbelievable as this sounds this outcome is rooted in the belief by many family law practitioners that the role of a father in raising children is limited to providing cold hard cash.

The various organizations that are fighting for fathers' rights are doing an admirable job, but until the day arrives when the family law industry treats mothers and fathers equally it is best to tread carefully. It is all a matter of presenting yourself in the right way and fitting the right 'profile'. Not all men get screwed by family law - but seemingly far to many do.

A stunning legacy of the family law industry is the number of fathers that are not permitted to see their own children. And yet many of these same fathers have to make punishing child support payments. This does not sound healthy. The legal industry dismisses the charge that divorcing fathers are 'over represented in the suicide statistics' (which is fancy double talk for 'family court is so brutal to some men that they commit suicide'). But once you understand how a judge sees things you will be able to present your case in the right manner to steer away from this type of catastrophe. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

Mothers Rights
With the gender bias against men in family court, one would think that for women family court would be some sort of feminist utopia. But surprisingly the author has met a number of women who are unable to collect any child support - even though they have a court order. They are left to provide for and raise children on their own. The children grow up without knowing much about their fathers. This situation is all very sad and certainly not in the best interests of the children who fair way better with both parents actively involved in their lives.

The legacy of unpaid child support shows the lack of effectiveness of the adversarial applicant/respondent family court system and sheds light on the priorities of the family law industry. In Ontario Canada it has made recent headlines (Toronto Star 06-Feb-2004) that there is over C$1,320,000,000 in outstanding child support owed by approximately 184,000 deadbeats. That is approximately 1.13 billion US dollars or 923,000,000 EUROs. Ontario has a population of about 12.2 million. Though there are no figures available, it can likely be assumed that there is nowhere near this amount in outstanding family law legal fees owed to lawyers. The observation that the lawyers have been paid and the children are left to do without would seem to illuminate the priorities of the family law industry.

Try not paying your taxes and see how long it takes the government to seize your assets. But for those that leave their children in the lurch there seems to be far less diligence on the part of the legal industry to make things right. The family law industry seems to be all about getting your money into the bank accounts of lawyers.

This is why it is important for women not to buy into the line that they are fed by the unethical lawyers about 'taking the husband to the cleaners'. What the lawyer is talking about is a court order - which is all theory. What the unethical lawyer fails to mention is that from the practical standpoint there is very little that can be done to enforce that court order unless, of course, you have a whole pile of cash to give to your lawyer to initiate more court proceedings.

The best course for women is to put your feelings towards your ex-husband aside and focus on what is in the best interests of your children. Involve the father as much as possible with the children. This will ensure, more than any toothless court order, that the support payments keep coming. It is also best for the children to have both their parents actively involved in their lives. And hey, it will give you some time off. Lets face it raising children is hard work and you do need and break once in a while. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

Divide and Conquer
Divide and Conquer. This is the family law industry's apparent ?modus operandi' (Latin for guiding principle). For men they hold out the promise of access to their own flesh and blood children. For women they hold out the promise of financial support from the ex-husband. Remedies are prescribed in the form of court orders (which could cost you your house). But enforcement is pretty much non-existent.

Don't be another victim of the family law industry. Purchase a copy of the Family Law Special Report. Read it and approach the family law industry with both eyes wide open. Decisions made in court are going to have a profound effect on you and your children for the rest of your lives. Click here to purchase instant delivery of the Family Law Special Report.

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